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When in Love



Note to the Reader : I have no idea how writings about such topics spring out of me at odd times. I wasn't in love when I wrote this. However, I must've seen too many relationships that I couldn't agree with that must've made me write this. For a long time I refused to post this or send it around although a lot of my friends insisted that I do. I post this now as it brings back a lot of memories of me writing between my study hours and editing before bedtime.

      When you fall in love, you must do so passionately. Love isn't just the feeling, it's more than the hormones and the goosebumps you get when he's around. Love is when you're ready to turn things upside down just to accommodate another living soul into your heart. It's when all the emotions you left behind come springing above, telling out to you that it's time. But love isn't turning into something else for the other person. It isn't you losing yourself, it's becoming more of yourself as your partner too becomes more of himself. There is nothing that must compromise either of your beings, the nature, zeal and dreams you two posses. But if it is so that you feel less of yourself and he does too, then, I'm afraid, you're in the right kind of love, with all the right kind of ideas of love, only to fall in love with the wrong kind of person.

      And if you are in such a position, may I politely beg you to let go of him instead of letting go off yourself?

04.08.2017
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